Marriage - Feeling or Decision?

Marriage is just not a decision but a commitment !!

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there wasa large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it'sweighing on your mind.Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted theirtouch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was acompletely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love...Because it's happening TO YOU.People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about theimagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. Butafter a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone callsbecome a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (whenit happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if youthink about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference betweenthe initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marrythe right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria ofthe love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame theirspouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage forfulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, afriendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. Itlies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation afew years later. Because (listen carefully to this):THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVERjust happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor oflove.'Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, ittakes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specificthings you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with yourmarriage.Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exerciseprogram makes you physically stronger, certain habits in yourrelationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause andeffect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Love

Hehehe..Woman! no no..this is not about woman.. but i think for those who really think about romantic, love, passion, forever.. partner! ah yeah! Partner is the word..

Love

What do you think Love is? too many definition, and different people would have different definition.

To me, Love is a Passion, something that blind fold the rest of the thing, like.. even if your parent do not like the partner, you would still further pursue whatever you like...that also including like, long distance relationship..

I love watching drama that without much tears, and with lotsa romantic scene, as normal.. how much the guy sacrifice to ensure the girl know about the love, and to ensure how this love will ever lasting. And one very stupid thing of me.. or i called it selfish, i always think if girl sacrifice too much, it is stupid because usually guy would not treasure it, guy always look for new things, or locally here we call it Fresh things. Once they get bored of you, they would tell you im bored with this relationship, come on..let just move on! What the heck!

But honestly, nowadays seem more girls ditch guys than ever. It is probably retribution :P joking...

Just watch this channel 8 chinese drama, combination of Singapore and Malaysia, kinda romantic scene a while ago. This girl, relatively similar to a friend i knew ... she seems to be very very naive. Always got cheated by guy, imagine? Knowing less than 2 months, can give everything to him? of course this is drama..if otherwise, no story to watch and no blog to write as well. She is quite pretty.

She works in this company as admin i guess, then this particular handsome, smart, caring GM, seems to be very caring towards her. Always support her emotionally, everything, from the other end. But she just couldnt accept that because of their status or rather the position.

Funny thing also, this few couples - are all friends. So this GM's friend is also the girl's friend, have been highlighting to both them that you know, we see that both of you really like each other but why everytime run away from reality?

So one of the day, this GM take the first move, and express his love in front of all the colleagues in the office ( which is not the right etique thou! ).
Knewing the girl like to fold frog and draw a face to indicate her personal feeling, he also fold it and put it in a very nice landscap. When ask to start the relationship, he pul out the landscape, and tell her that, i would like to draw each of the frogs a smile face if i can make you happy. I ensure you i wil love you forever, i hope you give me a chance. The girl was still stunt and insist this is not truth...

Do real love exist in this world? Do couple stay long? Do couple only love each other without external disturbance? But honestly, it depends on how strong is the feel, and how much commitment, passion that both have growned.

I am in a 8 years relationship, everything is perfect.. but is it true ? :D

Invest in Woman :)

Invest in a woman - courtesy from a forwarded email message

It's a great fortune to invest your time in a woman, especially a good woman. If you are an experienced man, you would certainly agree with me.

Women are peculiar species. If you have succeeded in conquering her heart, she will ceaselessly sacrifice for you till the end of your life. Just think over, you just spend a little of your time to go out for dinner with her, watch a movie or give her a simple gift, or say a few words to touch her heart or you promise her that you will bring happiness till the end of her life, or take time to help her kill some cockroaches in the kitchen, or sometimes spend some efforts helping her to carry some heavy stuff, or to open the car door for her. Continue to do all the above things and care for her well-being for 2 to 3 years to come…….. What do you get in return? You will be amazed to find that you have a woman whom would continue to care for your well-being for the rest of your life. She will wait for you at the door steps with a naïve and sweet smile each time when you meet her (of course, you don't get the sweet smile when you are arguing with her), nevertheless, she would still prepare a warm dinner for you after the heated argument has faded away… The greatest of all things she has done for her life, is to give birth to your child (of course, the unbearable pain need not be mentioned here)… She would continue to care and feed the child that carry your surname for many years to come no matter how naughty your child would be. On top of that, she also does the thing you that hated the most, i.e. doing housework, washing your clothes, sleep your child and tossing alone in the bedroom waiting for you at night for your return. For some of you, you would rather spend some time drinking with your friends at the bar and telling her that you have important assignments in the office, letting her to wait for your return in the living room till the wee hours of the morning … When you are down, she will be the first to encourage you. When you are happy, she would be the first to feel for your happiness before you open your mouth to tell her by looking at your face. When you achieve some good results at work or assignments, she feels the happiness with all her heart and pray to God to protect and bless you with more successes in the future. Despite all the above, you repay her by asking her to talk less and tell her not to bother your work. You ask her to sleep when she wanted to spend some precious time with you sharing with some simple happenings of the day.

Sometimes, you are too proud to take her out when you are out with your friends. Can you feel that the suffering that she has to endure for the next 30 years of her life staying with someone like you? And for men, for the next 30 years, what do you do to repay her gratitude; you are only capable to continue to do what you know…….to work Please continue to appreciate the woman of your life…. If you noticed that if there any women whom start to show some sacrifices to you, your door to the days of happiness has opened before you ….

Please grab the opportunity to share the happiness with her and help her to be the man of her dreams….

10 Reasons Y you should leave office at 6 pm!

Found this very interesting forwarded email message:

10 Reasons why you should leave office at 6 pm!

1. Employment Letter stated that working hour finish at 6 pm.

2. Work is a never-ending process even you stay until next morning you will never finish it.

3. Human are not robots even robots/machines have to rest or else it will facing breakdown problems.

4. You love you career, but your family is even more important in your life.

5. If you fail in your life, your boss is not going to be one who gives you a helping hand whereas your family would definitely offer help.

6. You do not want to screw up or make your life miserable because of your job.

7. Monthly salary = work from 9am-6pm.

If 6.30pm=$0.00+0 Bonus + 0 AngPau + 0 Appreciation + Bad Health + Bad Social Life + Poor family relationship

Equal To: Unproductivity Employee + Performance Drop + Company Reputation Drops + Retrenchment Rate Increases + Resignation Rate Increases

8. If the person who disagree to the above formulation, we think he/she is a loser who has no life, heartless, doomed workaholic, etc. He/She deserves the 'Best Employee of the Year award'!

9. You don't give a damn if your boss fires you.

10. For the Chinese, remember this "House in the East No Longer Keep You, then just move to the West House" -- Dong Ka Umm Da, Da Sai Ka

End of the day, please go back sharp and prioritize your work during working hours! Time management is the key to the above!

Who am i?

Exciting!

Finally created my own blog - of course not my real name but it is just fantastic.

So who am i?

Woman, late twenties, from Malaysia, a small town call Batu Pahat, working in Glenmarie, and yeah, a line that i have never thought i would be in!

As simple as i am, i think i have make a lot of things in my life complicated. Everytime i have to remind myself, please make it simple, do not think of branches and branches..just straight to the root cause and fix it from there. Well well, i'm getting there!

Of course, i am quite positive thinking, soft, gentle, adorable ( please do not vomit! ), considerate, and with the negatives like stubborn, irritating, fierce, and etc. Probably i should just put up Aquarius description, and yes i am an Aquarius!

As confident as i am, i always think myself the unique one. People should start liking me, coming near me, but end of the day, it is always about both parties's effort. So i started to learn and i hope i am getting more friends around.

I am the youngest in the family, the most different characters from the rest of my sibling ( 2 brothers, 3 sisters) and my parent gave birth to me because they wanted a son to take care of them when they are old. Worst, i am the one who stayed the farest from them. I promise to visit them as frequent as i can, and what i have been trying to do is once a month. Which is of course, not enough. Hey you, if you are reading my blog and are leaving far from your family, please please go and visit your family. Treasure them while they are still around you :)

Okie, i am going to sleep... write again...